Harlequin, publisher of romance novels, has been doing some
field research.
The survey, conducted in 16 countries by Canadian romance publisher Harlequin Enterprises, asked men and women on six continents about traits they liked or disliked and how they went about trying to meet Mr. or Ms. Right.
The poll revealed differences between countries in the way people tried to impress the opposite sex.
Australians and British men frequently admitted drinking too much, while about half of German and Italian men said they had lied about their finances. Spaniards were the most likely to use sex to catch someone's attention.
Eighty percent of Brazilian and Mexican men said they had lied about their marital or relationship status, as did 70 percent of German women, the survey said.
I'm not surprised by most of this, but 70 percent of German women lie about their marital status? Why? Are German chicks that promiscuous? Where have I been?
They unfortunately do not give a link to the findings, so I had to be content with their summary, which juggled intelligence, looks, money and a sense of humor throughout the many cultures. I have to say that people must lie on these things to a large degree or they give narrow choices. Men were apparently not given the option of a mute nymphomaniac, nor were women offered tall, wealthy, robotically romantic mind readers. That is certainly how things looked when I was single in the 90's.
Here's my take from my own "field work." Look at who you are with and you'll see the best you could do. Those more cynical than I would tell you that whomever you are with is the least you were willing to settle for. It might be compatible neuroses. Perhaps it is varying ratios of all of those things. A business associate of mine put it a similar way when we were both discussing personal standards. "Look a a guy's wife," he said "and that will tell you his minimum standard." I am a lucky guy, because, by his measure, I appear to have some pretty lofty standards. I know this much; she's not with me for my height or my money.
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